If you died tonight, would any body want to read your story? Are you satisfied with the life you've lived so far? Do you have more chapters to add to the story of your life? As the only true 'writer of your own life' (even though it's constantly being written), you have the unique ability to proof read, edit, and correct the text so that it depicts the person that you truly are. If you are prepared to include some plot twists, follow the four keys to a better autobiography.
Self-image Awareness
Your life is ruled by self-image. Self-image determines whether you're confident enough to tell your boss about your great idea or too shy to ask that good looking person for a date. Your self-image, tied to your subconscious, helps you cope with life by determining what you think you can accomplish and protecting you from harm (sometimes with too much success!). It tends to dislike change, but your environment, life experiences, past failures, past successes, and the people around you all contribute to your self-image.
When your self-image is negative, you feel hopeless and are held back on the road to success. A negative self-image will leave you continually afraid to step outside of your comfort zone, meaning that you will probably be living in a rut all the time. This negative self-image attracts your attention to where things might go wrong in the present or to where they have in the past.
Understanding the purpose and power of your self-image and then consciously reprogramming are the first steps toward changing it. Take into account and picture all the things you want out of life. Imagine yourself in calming and satisfying situations. Consider the situation with specific details. The more positive relationships you find yourself in, the easier it becomes to avoid a negative self-image.
Find Negative Themes That Recur
Note any frequently occurring themes you are faced with. Do you continue to achieve the same negative results from employing the same negative behaviors? A lot of people do. Oddly enough, people will sometimes bang their heads into a wall repetitively even though they see it hurts. There is a strange sense of comfort in the routine even though the outcomes are undesirable.
Many people who continually blame others for their problems are actually unconsciously caught up in a cycle of negative behavior. Instances of repeated negative behavior include employees waiting for each other to step up or spouses who insist on changing each other. They may be so entrenched in the harmful routines they live, that they don't actually notice how they play out. The beginning step in altering it is to spot the trend. As a result of facing many of these patterns that were established in childhood and are difficult to eliminate, those who are willing to confront them, increase control over their own lives.
Get Rid of Bad Behavior
To look at the positive side, consider whether your behavior makes other people want to pay attention to you. Ask your self some tough questions. What would people say about me if they knew I would never find out? What actions, verbal or non-verbal, produce a positive response? Identifying what works for you is the first step toward replacing negative patterns with more positive ones. Solving the problem of undesirable behavior involves identifying those patterns of negative behavior and terminating them. We should free ourselves from negative behavior. If you want a rewarding and fulfilling life, it's key to recognize what makes you unhappy, what annoys you, and what angers you, then choose to take control of these areas.
It's not as effortless as it sounds. Following through with the resolution to rid yourself of long-time habits may be one of the hardest things you ever do. We have allowed negative patterns of behavior to get a hold of us with devastating results. Your whole life can be run by these patterns. You need to break out of that cycle, even though it will be tough and take a while.
Ask others to assist you. The people closest to you may be even more aware of your negative patterns than you are, so ask the people you trust to help you find those patterns and keep you accountable for making changes. This is a great time to make lists. When trying to successfully beat the pattern, jot down your top ten bad habits and reward yourself by crossing them off. Expect relapses of negative behavior, especially when they can do the most damage.
Make Your Spirit Live
Your spirit, unlike your self-image, continues to believe that you are destined for big things. Energetic people who love their lives are where you can really see spirit. Take as an example the children in your life. They think that they can go on forever. They're upbeat about the future, and when they talk about what they want to be when they grow up, they're full of big plans. They feel as though they can be anything they desire. They aren't yet old enough to understand the limitations of adulthood.
Your spirit knows you have more potential than you're living up to. That very spirit within you will drive you toward excitement and motivation, and give you that special urge to succeed. Living in the spirit means that you have endless potential. No problems, no cares, no worries
Your resilience helps you navigate whatever happens.
Life is: Exciting, enjoyable, under control.
Family life is: being happy, content and peaceful.
Your job is: simple, enjoyable, effective.
Energy levels are: At the top.
Your mindset is: comprehensible and focused, with determination.
You will find they have one thing in common, by analyzing the lives of every successful person you can think of. That is a powerful spirit. Learn to follow their example, and make your autobiography a success!